Reblogged from embryo-yo
it’s actually a ton of work for me to form new friendships with great people without getting giant crushes on them and making out with them. most of my good friendships operate within the framework of like.. me thinking they’re super dreamy and loving a ton of qualities about them, and admiring the everloving hell out of them and maybe wanting to make out/sleep with them, but still feeling pretty non-romantic about the whole thing, if that makes sense. to most people, it doesn’t. so i don’t have a lot of close friends.
most of the time the qualities we want in a partner are the same we’d want in a friend. & really, now that i think about it.. i’d probably make out with most of my female friends (assuming they weren’t in monogamous relationships). i usually do not, however, want to be in relationships with any of them. maybe it comes down to the difference between physical attraction & romantic feelings.